Why you want a certain job
In most cases, the main reason you want a job is to pay the bills. But telling this to your future employers might not be the best approach. Companies want to hear how you chose them out of dozens other because it’s been your life dream to work for them not how miserable you are since you’ve lost your job 6 months ago.
A smart “I want to grow within your company” or “Call center has always been my passion” will increase your chances of getting hired compared to “I need the money really bad”.
When you have negative feelings about someone’s good news
The new person in your friend’s life may not seem like that much of a big deal to you, especially since you hear the same story every month or so, or you might think that the new business idea your spouse shared with you is not that good. Does this mean you have to rain on their parade and tell them what you actually think? Definitely not.
“Be cautious of being that person who always rains on other people’s parades,” says Adina Mahalli, a certified mental health expert and family therapist for Maple Holistics. “When someone has exciting news for you and you have bad news to share in that realm…keep your honesty to yourself.”
Your negative opinion about the way someone looks
Most of the times, when people ask questions like “Does this dress make me fat?” or “Do you think I look funny in this outfit?”, they don’t want your honest opinion. People are simply looking for validation, not the brutal truth. In other words, next time you think you have an opinion about the way someone looks, think twice about saying anything because you might hurt that person’s feelings and self-esteem.
Even if you are specifically asked to say the truth and nothing but the truth, this does not mean that you can ask when [your friend] put on so much weight,” says Mahalli.
When you don’t like someone else’s partner
Even if you can’t seem to understand, for the life of you, what some of your friends see in their partners, don’t just go around voicing that. Is it a good idea to have a private conversation with your best friend and share your dislike regarding their partner? Most definitely not, if we were to listen to Wyatt Fisher, a licensed clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in Boulder, Colorado. “If you don’t really care for your friend’s spouse yet they seem happily married, keep your opinions to yourself,” he says… Otherwise, you may risk causing irreparable damages to your friendship or even lose that friend for good.
