When you hate a gift
It’s the thought that counts when it comes to gifts in general, but what happens when someone’s thought has made them get you one of the worst things you’ve ever set your eyes on? Well, there are many things you can do, but, under no circumstances, can you tell them you don’t like the gift.
Just imagine what your Grandma would feel about you disliking the scarf she knitted just for your birthday. You can’t hurt someone’s feelings like that. “It may be best to smile and thank the gift-giver anyway,” says Erin Hinek, LPC, head of group practice Fleurish Psychotherapy in Atlanta. If you know what’s good for you, “graciously accept the gift, especially if the relationship is important to you,” she advises.
When you don’t agree with someone’s parenting style
Parenting is no easy task, that’s for sure. There will always be endless debates about breastfeeding versus bottle, time-outs and whatnot but at the end of the day all everyone wants is to be a good parent. You might think your friend is crazy for using disposable diapers, but it might be better to keep your opinion to yourself. “Unsolicited advice will only create more conflict or tension,” says Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., a psychologist in Washington, D.C., and author of The Friendship Fix: The Complete Guide to Choosing, Losing, and Keeping Up With Your Friends.
“Parenting is personal and criticizing a parent’s choice is not necessarily going to make them feel open to receiving your opinion,” explains Hinek. Unless their approach directly endangers someone, don’t interfere in anyone’s parenting style unless you are specifically asked for advice.
