Not focusing on the things you like about yourself
Nobody is perfect. Make that your mantra and start focusing on the things you like about yourself, instead of on your flaws. If you don’t do that, you’ll never be able to feel good about yourself and be happy for who you are.
Certified mindful lifestyle and stress management coach Susan Petang, author of The Quiet Zone, recommends writing down the things you love about yourself every day, whether it’s your hair, your eyes, your voice, or your quirky personality.
Not seeing the positive aspects
Constantly complaining and focusing on the negative things in your life can turn you into a sad, frustrated person that people avoid. Tricia Wolanin, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and author of The Fragrance of Wanderlust, says she had a friend who couldn’t get past the negatives in his life and enjoy the good things, no matter what happened to him.
“He refused to see his amazing promotion that very few people achieve in his field, the raise, positive people in his life, the travels, and intimacy he experienced during the year.” Instead, he focused all his attention on medical issues, romantic problems, debts, or people that have pushed him away, making him a grumpy and frustrated person that no one wanted to be around.
